Women attribute many traits to men, and this gives the male gender several stereotypes. One stereotype that has been around seemingly since the dawn of time is that men are liars.
Why men lie?
For this reason, women rank honesty high on their lists of must-have traits and look hard to find a man who doesn’t fit that “liar” stereotype.
Alas, the fact is that this stereotype is grounded in the truth. Men are liars! Someone who is looking for a completely truthful one is bound to be disappointed.
5 Big Reasons Why Men Lie
In many cases, knowing the driving forces behind a behavior can help eliminate misunderstandings and smooth out ongoing problems. While big lies are often signs of big problems, the little ones that have come to be associated with men are a different story. Allowing them to get in the way of a relationship may be a mistake. What drives a man to his seemingly compulsive minor fibbing? Here are a few of the top motivators.
1. To Avoid Certain Trouble
The age-old question, “Does this dress make me look fat?” is the perfect example of a question that will make a man feel compelled to lie. Answering that with anything but some variation of “No, you look beautiful in it” is a good way for a man to have his head figuratively taken off. Therefore, any man who has even heard of the scenario will say “no” even if the dress makes you look like a 10-ton tank. Any similar scenario will also result in lies for the exact same reasons.
2. For His Image
Men are notorious for their ego-pumping lies. There are even songs about it, with lyrics such as “I’m a doctor, I’m a lawyer, I’m an astronaut, I’m a movie star, and I own this bar!” While the song suggests that he’s doing it to impress a woman, the fact is that men like to make themselves look super in front of all humans regardless of gender. The most astute men will adjust their lies to match their audience, while those with less social savvy will use the same ones for everyone.
Those who are keyed in to what will impress their audience will typically use strength-based lies for men, and tales of their supremacy at the gym or in sporting matches can be expected. Women, on the other hand, can expect some of that along with plenty of bovine fertilizer related to their super-impressive jobs, huge salaries, and other such things. In all of these cases, the point is to improve social standing and the chance of getting the benefits that come with it. These benefits are different when they come from other men, but they still exist.
Other ego-based lies revolve around hiding some sort of misfortune or lack of performance. Men have been known to claim that they’re going to a job, when in reality, they were fired months before and haven’t found another. This is done to avoid losing social standing, avoid embarrassment, and to maintain relationships with women who they think would dump a “loser.”
3. To Avoid Doing Unpleasant Things
These lies are used to get out of chores, fixing things, and other such unpleasant work. The man will come up with something else that’s really pressing, twist an ankle, or otherwise beg off of the job. This type of fib is the male equivalent to a woman’s “getting her hair done” excuse.
4. Why men lie? Because They Can
For a surprising number of men, the ability to lie and get away with it is an ego-booster in and of itself. Therefore, he’ll tell a few fibs because he figures you won’t check. One example is if he says he graduated with high honors when the reality is that he passed with a C average. While it usually isn’t worth ending a relationship over a couple of lies of this nature, it can be wise to keep an eye out. A few ego-boosters are understandable, but compulsive lying about every little thing will destroy trust and may be a sign of a bigger problem.
5. When Lying Should Be a Deal-Killer
While most lies men tell are benign, this is not always the case. Be on the lookout for claims of working late, coworkers who spilled their perfume on them, having already eaten at the office or elsewhere, and other things like that. These claims are often used by cheaters, so you shouldn’t feel bad in taking steps to verify – or disprove – them. Of course, it may well turn out to be true that a man’s company is demanding a lot of overtime. It can be worth your time to drive by his office during the claimed hours and find out for sure.
In a Nutshell
Behind all the reasons why men lie, the great majority of the lies men tell are benign, and while they’re annoying, they generally aren’t a sign of anything bad unless the man is outright compulsive about hiding the truth. Some lies, however, are more than little fibs. Be on the lookout for any that could be a sign of serious trouble and follow up on those to be sure nothing major is amiss.